🧑‍🤝‍🧑 YOUNG PEOPLE ASK: 1 WHY DON’T I HAVE FRIENDS?

 

🧑‍🤝‍🧑INGLISH🧑‍🤝‍🧑 YOUNG PEOPLE ASK: WHY DON’T I HAVE FRIENDS?

You’re online and see photos from a party that happened a few days ago. All your friends are there, having a great time. But someone’s missing: you. The question pops up: “Why was I left out? Why don’t I have friends?”

Curiosity turns into hurt, and loneliness seems to take over. But does not having friends mean failure? Let’s take a closer look.

⚖️ True or False Test You’ll never feel lonely if you have lots of friends. You’ll never feel lonely if you join a social network. You’ll never feel lonely if you can send unlimited text messages. You’ll never feel lonely if you do things for others.

👉 All the statements above are false. Here’s why:

🌱 The truth about friendship and loneliness Having lots of friends doesn’t guarantee you won’t feel lonely.

“The worst kind of loneliness is when you’re surrounded by friends but feel like none of them love or need you.” — Anne

Social media doesn’t guarantee real friendship.

“A room full of dolls doesn’t make anyone feel loved. If your online contacts aren’t true friends, they’re worth as much as lifeless figurines.” — Elaine

Constant messaging doesn’t eliminate loneliness.

“Sometimes you feel lonely and keep checking your phone to see if someone messaged you. And when no one does, you feel even worse!” — Serena

Doing things for others doesn’t guarantee they’ll do the same.

“I always try to be generous with my friends, but I feel like they don’t do the same for me.” — Richard

Conclusion: Loneliness has a lot to do with how you view things.

“It comes from inside a person, not from outside.” — Jeanette

💡 How to overcome loneliness

1. Build your self-confidence “Loneliness can come from insecurity. It’s hard to take the initiative to make or accept new friendships when you think no one will be interested in you.” — Jeanette

📖 The Bible says: “You must love your neighbor as yourself.” (Galatians 5:14) “For if anyone thinks he is something when he is nothing, he deceives himself. But let each one examine his own actions.” (Galatians 6:3, 4)

2. Avoid self-pity “Loneliness is like quicksand. If you don’t get out soon, you’ll sink in it.” — Erin

📖 The Bible says: “Love does not seek its own interests.” (1 Corinthians 13:4, 5) “I will very gladly spend and be spent for your souls.” (2 Corinthians 12:15)

3. Don’t accept just anyone as a friend “A person who feels lonely might end up seeking attention from anyone. But some people will make you feel that way just to take advantage later.” — Brianne

📖 The Bible says: “He who walks with wise people will become wise, but he who has dealings with the stupid will fare badly.” (Proverbs 13:20)

🧩 Conclusion We all feel lonely at some point. But it’s just a feeling, and our feelings come from what we think. We can control our thoughts and be realistic about what we expect from others.

“Not everyone will be your best friend, but you’ll find people who truly care about you. And that’s what matters.” — Jeanette

📣 What other young people say Vanessa: “If you feel lonely, talk to someone about it. You might find out that many people feel the same way.”

Taylor: “Sometimes you’re the one who pulled away from others. So do what you can to reconnect.”

🚪 Overcome the fear of making friends “My friend suffers from chronic loneliness. She tries to hide her low self-esteem by acting ‘tough,’ but that only makes things worse. What she needs to understand is that communication builds bonds between people. It’s through conversation that you’ll find the friends you need.” — Elaine