🌀 HELP FOR THE FAMILY SERIES 3 When husband and wife have different points of view

 

🌀 HELP FOR THE FAMILY SERIES 3

When husband and wife have different points of view

It is natural for two people to have different habits, interests, and personalities. In marriage, these differences can become challenges, especially when they involve important matters such as:

• How much time to spend with relatives.

• How to manage money.

• Whether or not to have children.

What you need to know

Compatibility does not mean always thinking the same way. Even very united couples will have different opinions on serious matters.

Example:

• A wife may have grown up in a family that valued frequent gatherings with relatives, while the husband did not have that custom.

• Another couple may have learned different ways of handling money, which requires dialogue to reach an agreement.

Just as two people can look at the same scene and see different things, the same happens with points of view within marriage.

What you can do

Commitment to marriage is essential. It helps the couple face problems as if they were on the same team.

📖 Bible principle: “What God has yoked together, let no man put apart.” — Matthew 19:6

Evaluate the factors involved

If the subject is having children, for example, reflect on:

• The strength of the relationship.

• The responsibilities of being a father or mother.

• The financial situation and the balance between work and family.

📖 Bible principle: “Who of you, wanting to build a tower, does not first sit down and calculate the expense?” — Luke 14:28

Questions for reflection

If you do not want to have children:

• Is it a definitive decision or just for now?

• Is the reason insecurity about being a good father or mother?

• Is there fear of losing your spouse’s attention?

If you want to have children:

• Are you ready for the responsibilities?

• Does the financial condition allow you to raise a child?

📖 Bible principle: “The wisdom from above is . . . reasonable.” — James 3:17

Recognize the advantages of the other’s point of view

When discussing any matter, start with what you have in common. Then evaluate:

• What points of agreement exist.

• What benefits there are in each perspective.

• Whether it is possible to adjust opinions for the good of the marriage.

📖 Bible principle: “Let each one keep seeking, not his own advantage, but that of the other person.” — 1 Corinthians 10:24

Conclusion

Differences do not mean failure. The secret lies in respecting, dialoguing, and valuing the commitment made before God.

📖 Bible principle: “Time and unforeseen occurrence befall them all.” — Ecclesiastes 9:11