Series 5 Help for the Family | Marriage How to Talk About Problems

 

Series 5

Help for the Family | Marriage

How to Talk About Problems

The challenge Many couples notice that when they try to talk about a problem, the situation ends up getting worse. This happens because men and women generally have different communication styles. Recognizing these differences is the first step to improving dialogue.

What you should know

• Women: in general, prefer to talk about the problem before hearing a solution. Many times, the simple act of talking already brings relief.

• Men: tend to think of quick solutions, because they feel useful when solving a problem. For them, offering an immediate answer is a way of showing support.

The Bible reminds us: “Be quick to listen, slow to speak.” — James 1:19. This means that understanding comes before giving an opinion or solution.

What you can do

• Husband: be a good listener. Allow your wife to vent without interrupting. Many times, she just needs to feel that you understand her and are by her side.

  • Biblical principle: “Take the lead in showing honor to one another.” — Romans 12:10.

• Wife: explain clearly what you need. If you just want to be heard, tell your husband. That way he will understand that, at that moment, it is not necessary to present a solution.

  • Biblical principle: “Have empathy.” — 1 Peter 3:8.

• Both: remember that we should not treat others only as we would like to be treated, but as they need to be treated. — 1 Corinthians 10:24. When husband and wife both give in a little, both win.

The right time The Bible says: “How good is a word spoken at the right time!” — Proverbs 15:23. Choosing the right moment to talk is essential. Avoid starting a difficult conversation when one of you is tired, hungry, or stressed. Wait until both are calm so that the dialogue can be constructive.